Valentines Day Woe.


This morning I found out that an old boyfriend just got engaged. Such a funny way to begin Valentines Day, don’t you think? I’m trying to be tough about it–I mean, I am very healed and over our relationship so I feel genuinely happy for him. But something that struck me is how I also feel somewhat irritated about his life moving on, when my own feels like it’s at a stand still.

I don’t mean to wish unhappiness upon him, by any means! But him being engaged means that his life is going onwards and upwards; changing and evolving. The fact that I’m not there means very little since I know we weren’t meant to be, and we have been growing apart the last 2 years. But it seems different today–now I’m officially what the world would call, “behind.”

Gah. Such a typical Valentines Day message for us, single folk. And I don’t think I thought up this attitude on my own, I think it surrounds us: “You’re behind. You’re missing something. You must feel terribly alone.”

Am I alone really? For goodness sakes, I have so many people around me that love and care for me! But alas, I am at a standstill romantically, and that fact makes the world’s Valentines Day mumbo-jumbo hit a nerve. If you are in the same place, I feel for you. This day kinda sucks. But I will not let it beat me, and I don’t want to bring down those who are on a love-high, because I know how amazing that is. Today, although it pains me to say it, is a day for those without a significant other, to be somewhat humble. Keep in mind that love is a real amazing gift, and while enjoying it, there is nothing worse than a negative Nancy who makes you feel like you don’t deserve to feel special. Let’s not be love-squashing negative Nancys.

Instead of sitting in the moping syrup, this year I am going to try and be really happy for those who are blissfully engaged (literally and figuratively) in their love life, and I will enjoy my own. This year, it looks like sisters and friends joining together for a pink dinner party. We are loved and special, and an event that celebrates our friendships, helps remind us.

So here’s to a happy and humble Valentines day single folk! Go listen to Michael Buble’s “I just haven’t met you yet!” and be further encouraged.

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